My Life Purpose: Be the Best Me That I Can Be

On Sundays I write on Spirituality, Faith and Ethics. I do it because I believe we’re all spiritual beings and have some sort of a moral compass in our lives. You can learn more by clicking here.

For as long as there have been people living in this world, people of every age, race and gender have sought to understand the meaning and purpose of life.

At one level, it’s the stuff that philosophers and theologians question and debate. At another level, it is something that all of us grapple with at one time or another.

Today, it seems like more and more people are searching for the meaning and purpose of their lives.  If you doubt me, simply consider the fact that over 30 million copies of a book called The Purpose Driven Life, by Rick Warren, have been sold since it was first published in 2002.

I’ve been trying to remember when I first learned that my life had a purpose. I don’t mean when I first discovered what my purpose was…but when I discovered that there was a reason for my existence.

I think it must have been when I was a child, thanks to the influence of my parents, church and school.  As far back as I can remember, I’ve believed that God created me, wants a relationship with me, and put me here on earth for a reason.

Of course, this begs the question:  “What is the reason?  What is it that God wants me to be?”  I’ve discovered that this question has led to one of the greatest adventures in my life.  Gratefully, my parents, teachers, pastors, mentors, friends and others have helped me over the years to understand and clarify my purpose and calling.

Through reading the scriptures and listening to the experiences of others, I’ve discovered that God wants me to be the best “me” that I can be, according to the passions, interests, talents, skills and abilities He’s given me.  Gratefully, he doesn’t expect me to be whom I’m not.  He simply wants me to live up to my full potential as the “me” he made me to be.

What happens when we don’t understand and live according to our God-given purpose?  From my observation, we can experience more stress, conflict, feelings of unfulfillment, work-life imbalance, frustration and even a sense of hopelessness and depression.  These are all things I want to avoid in my life – how about you?

So, do you know that you have a purpose in life?  And do you know what your life’s purpose is?  One of my goals here at Life Compass is to help you discover your purpose and live out every day…to help you be the best version of you that you can be.

Why?  Because I’ve discovered that my purpose in life is to help others find more freedom, purpose and fulfillment in their life and work.  I hope you’ll come along with me on the journey, and I hope you’ll share your questions and thoughts!

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How One Man Found His Higher Calling

Oakland A's prospect Grant Desme is retiring from baseball to enter the priesthood.

Oakland A's prospect Grant Desme is retiring from baseball to enter the priesthood.

For those of you who are new to Life Compass, I write on Spirituality, Faith and Ethics every Sunday.  Here’s why.

Have you ever thought that some people have a “higher” calling than others?  As a child, I often believed that those who work “in the ministry” as a pastor, priest, nun or missionary had a higher calling than everyone else.  After all, they serve God, right?  And everyone else serves…uh…someone else, I guess.

As a young adult I learned that God has given everyone a purpose and calling in life, and that we all can serve Him by doing what He called us to do to the best of our ability.

Whether we’re a plumber, baker, banker, attorney, mechanic, or something else, the Bible tells us, “Whatever you do, do your work as for the Lord” (Colossians 3:23). It also gives numerous examples of how our work benefits and enhances the lives of others.

The problem, of course, is that we need to figure out what it is that we’re called to do.  And it seems to me that only a few people actually do that.

Yesterday, Fox News ran a story on their website about a young man who discovered his true calling.  Normally, something like this wouldn’t make the news.  In fact, I can’t recall the last time I saw a headline that said something like, “Susan Smith discovers her calling and will become a banker” or “Bob Johnson finally figures out he’s supposed to be a teacher.”

What makes this a newsworthy story is that it’s about a top major league baseball prospect who discovered his true calling and decided to enter the priesthood:

As a top prospect for the Oakland Athletics, outfielder Grant Desme might’ve gotten the call every minor leaguer wants this spring.

Instead, he believed he had another, higher calling.

Desme announced Friday that he was leaving baseball to enter the priesthood, walking away after a breakout season in which he became MVP of the Arizona Fall League.

“I was doing well at ball. But I really had to get down to the bottom of things,” the 23-year-old Desme said. “I wasn’t at peace with where I was at.”

“I love the game, but I aspire to higher things,” he said. “I know I have no regrets.”

Some will applaud Desme because he is giving up the potential fame and fortune of major league baseball for the priesthood, thinking that “ministry” is more important than baseball.

I too want to applaud him – but not because I think one vocation is more important than another.  It’s not that baseball is not right. It’s just that baseball is not right for him!

I applaud Desme for taking the time to clarify his calling and for being brave enough to make the change, no matter the cost. And what led him to make this decision to find the work he was meant to do?

  1. He realized he wasn’t at peace and didn’t feel fulfilled.
  2. He aspired to be all that God wanted him to be (he called that “the higher things”)
  3. He wanted to live without regrets.

What about you?  If you were on the pathway to be a major league baseball player (and perhaps earn millions of dollars), but you knew things weren’t quite right, would you keep doing it for the money/and or the love of the game?  Or would you follow your heart and do the work you were meant to do?  Please share your comments below.

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What Will You Become in 2010?

For those of you who are new to Life Compass, I write on Spirituality, Faith and Ethics every Sunday.  Here’s why.

Jim Rohn, America’s Business Philosopher, once said:

The major value in life is not what you get.
The major value in life is what you become.

Wait a minute – is he saying that he who dies with the most toys does NOT win?  Yes, I think that’s what he is saying.

So let me ask you this question:  What will you become in 2010?

I’ll give you my answers.  I want to…

  • become a more thoughtful husband and father.
  • live to my full potential, in every area of life.
  • be a better listener.
  • be more attentive to God’s direction and leading in my life.

If you’ve mostly been thinking about all the things you want to do and have in 2010, now’s a great time to start thinking about what you want to – or know you ought to – become!

Please use the comment box below to share your thoughts!

What Tiger Reminded Me About Work-Life Balance

Tiger Woods (photo by Keith Allison, WikiMedia Creative Commons License)

Tiger Woods (photo by Keith Allison, WikiMedia Creative Commons License)

For those of you who are new to Life Compass, I write on Spirituality, Faith and Ethics every Sunday.  Here’s why.

Tiger Woods has been in the news a lot lately.  Not because of his great golf game, but because of reports of multiple extramarital relationships.

Sadly, there’s nothing new about celebrities (or anyone for that matter) having affairs these days.  But what most people seem to find shocking about Tiger’s situation is that his public persona gave no indication of his private daliances. Clearly, who he was in public did not reflect what was going on in his private life.

When I hear stories like these about Tiger or others, I’m reminded that each and every human being in this world is susceptible to temptation and failure.  We can so easily deceive ourselves into thinking that we can be a different person in public than we are in private. Pretty soon, we not only deceive ourselves, but the ones most close to us too.

We think, “I’ll do it just this once.  It won’t hurt anything or anyone.”  And if we’ve gotten away with it (or so we think) we do it again.  And again.

A few months ago, in How Self-Deception Contributes to Work-Life Imbalance, I wrote that:

Self-deception is one of the greatest enemies we face when it comes to personal growth and work-life balance.  It is a self-betrayal against our moral compass, our innate sense of what we know is right and wrong.

And it rarely stays small.  Self-deception in one area of life almost inevitably lead to problems in other areas – especially our career, finances, and relationships.

Don’t think it could happen to you?  Neither did Tiger.  Don’t think it could cost you your family, your income, and more?  Neither did Tiger!

So how can we fight against self-deception and maintain healthy work-life balance in our lives?

I believe one of the best things we can do is commit ourselves to a life of integrity – to be the same in public that we are in private.  Here are some tips on how to do that:

  1. Identify and write down boundaries in each life area – limits beyond which we will not go.
  2. Commit to listen to your conscience.  If “something” tells you that you shouldn’t do what you are about to do, then don’t do it.  By the way, I’ve observed that if we get into the habit of ignoring the warnings that our conscience gives us regarding a particular matter, it will eventually stop warning us.  This is clearly a sign that we’ve gone too far.
  3. Establish a regular time and process of assessment or accountability.  You can do this by yourself, or with your spouse, close friend, or accountability partner.   The simplest questions to ask yourself, or to have others ask you, are:  “Am I deceiving myself  or others in any area of my life?  Is my public life the same as my private life?  In the last week (or month), have I lived my life the way I said I wanted to live?”

Does anyone else use a process like this?  Or do you have any other thoughts or suggestions?  If so, please share them!

It’s More Blessed to Give Than Receive

Native Girl SmilingFor those of you who are new to Life Compass, I write on Spirituality, Faith and Ethics every Sunday.  Here’s why.

This weekend, I went with a group of 20 people to visit churches in two communities on the Navajo Nation in northeastern Arizona.  This was my third visit to these communities, and I’ve come to love the Navajo people.

The purpose of our trip was to help the local churches host Christmas parties for their communities.  We brought Christmas gift packs for each man, woman and child, which contained things like personal care items, socks, mittens, candy, toys, etc.

We learned that these gift packs really make a difference, as most of the people live in poverty.  There are very few jobs available in these remote bush communities – many who do work have to drive 50-100 miles for their job.  And many still live without running water.

These people have so little when compared to the “average” American.  And yet even in their poverty, they wanted to give. In each community, many who came to the parties brought in food dishes, so we all enjoyed a community potluck as part of the Christmas celebration.

I was enjoying a meal of mutton stew, grilled mutton, and fry bread when my mind recalled a scripture from the Bible (Acts 20:35) where the Apostle Paul recalls Jesus Christ’s words that “It is more blessed to give than receive.”

As I reflected on that scripture for a while I was reminded again that everyone, no matter how poor, has something to give – be it time, talent, or treasure.  And we rob them of their dignity (and a blessing) when we give to them without allowing them to give to us, according to their ability.

We came to the Navajo Rez to give Christmas gifts, but in our giving we received.  The Navajo people, in their receiving of our gifts, generously gave us a wonderful meal.  And all of us received a blessing in this exchange.

I think more of my giving should be this way.  Not so I can be blessed by what I give, but so the receiver can be blessed by what they can give.

What do you think?

How to Balance Your Time – Creativity and Productivity

On Sundays I write on Spirituality, Faith and Ethics.  I do it because I believe we’re all spiritual beings and have some sort of a moral compass in our lives.  You can learn more by clicking here.

Yesterday, I began a new series on How to Balance Your Time, where we’re looking at the six key types of time we all need in our lives:

  • Creative and productive
  • Physically energetic and active
  • Playful and entertaining
  • Learning and developing
  • Reflective and spiritual
  • Restful and relaxing

Today we’ll take a closer look at the first type of time:  creative and productive.  It’s no secret that most of us focus a majority of our time in this category, because we spend so much of our time at work.

I think it is very natural for us to do that, because that’s how God made us.  He made us to be like him as a creator and producer. In the beginning, he gave Adam work to do and called it good.

But he also made us to rest. To maintain a balanced life, we don’t just need a day of rest, though that’s important.  We need times of rest and relaxation throughout each day and week.  And we need variety.

For most of us, working in the creative/productive realm requires a lot of energy.  However, we simply can’t maintain that high energy level forever.  We also need times of exercise, entertainment, learning, reflection and rest.  We’ll talk more about each of these in future posts over the next few days.

Personally, much of my time each week is spent in the creative/productive category.  I love what I do and I could do it all day and night, if I didn’t set limits for myself.

In recent years, I’ve increasingly realized that I can improve my creativity and productivity by taking time off to get some exercise, play, learn, reflect, and rest.  It seems counter-intuitive, I know.  I used to think that if I just worked harder or longer, I’d get more done.  But I’ve discovered this isn’t always the case.

In fact, I’ve learned that if I work too long or hard, my creativity and productivity begins to diminish.  When I work too late at night, I start to make mistakes.  I can’t think straight.

Now I’m learning to work smarter, not harder, by maintaining balance in my life. I’ve found that I have more creativity when I do exercise and take time to read.  I’m more productive when I get a good night’s sleep and take some relaxation breaks during the work day.

I’ve also come to appreciate the meaning of the word “recreation”.  It’s not just about playing or doing something just for fun or sport.  When we recreate we re-create.  Something happens inside us that re-creates the energy and creativity we need.

And above all, I’ve found that the more I acknowledge that my ability to create and produce is a gift from God . . . and the more I seek to do my work and live my life in a time-balanced way . . .  the more creative, productive, and successful I am.

This week, as I look over the list of six key types of time, I know I need to schedule some time for learning and developing.  I’ve got a stack of magazines and two books that have been waiting for me that I’ve neglected for far too long.  The reason why?  I don’t have the time – I have work to do.  Yeah, right!

But I know that if I take the time to read and enjoy those magazines this week, I’ll get a little re-charge in energy.  And I’ll probably get some really great ideas from what I read that I can put into practice.  So, I’m blocking out time in my calendar to read those this week.

What about you?  Are you all work and no play?  Do you find it hard to balance your time by scheduling times for rest, relaxation and recreation?  If so, I encourage you to look over the list of six key types of time and pick one or two that you feel would be most important to do right now, and then schedule those into your life this week.  Let me know how it goes!